Sometimes, you have to deal with it!

There are times in our lives when we have things happen that only we can do something about. Some things can't be delegated or just ignored any longer. It's uncomfortable at it's very best and we don't even want to think about it at it's worst. "It" has it's own meaning to each person and my "It" may pale in comparison to your"It".

You can tell me how you would handle my "It" and it may be the right thing to do, but you are not walking in my shoes and know what I know about what is behind the curtain of my "It". You can say that "It" isn't that bad and to just suck it up and deal with it! Strong words from someone who is not in the game. Free advice is worth every cent! But sometimes it will cost you a fortune. Or a lifestyle. Sadly, it has cost lives before. You hear about support groups for different causes so you think there are people there to help, and there are some. Trouble is, the heavy lifting is left to the individual. No one can remove the "It" from the room but you.

Some things were never talked about in the first person so when we are blindsided by our "It", we don't know what to do! We seek out the "experts" and they are no help at all. So what do we do? Are we going to try and remove the "It" from our lives? Or are we going to become overwhelmed by the circumstances and just live with our "It"? Should we nurture our "It" so that it will grow and mature into a totally unmanageable beast? Let it be the center of our lives forever? Become our master? I can't answer that for anyone and I will not even try. I thank you for your input on my "It", and I will give your insights careful consideration. However, the fallout is mine alone as it is with your "It".

It's gut check time. These are the best options and this is the short term ramifications. This is how life as I know it will change forever and this is how the future will look if I take the "It" and kick it to the curb. This is what will happen if I keep the "It" alive and well. Either way, it will be uncomfortable, it's just that one is a known and one is an unknown. That dreaded fear of loss of anything far outweighs the joy of possible gain.

I pray that your "It" is handled the way it needs to be.